What can you do in six seconds?
In 1997, our team was sitting around the kitchen table talking about how to launch this new nonprofit organization. After about an hour of listing names (and if you think “Six Seconds” is strange, you might like to know that “Platypus” was on the list for awhile!), we took a break and went onto new topics.
We talked about how important it is for our organization to show how emotional intelligence is something simple and practical — that anyone can practice and build without complex processes. We were educators versed in an experiential approach to learning that’s both joyful and meaningful, so we wanted to be sure our organization maintained a commitment to distilling big ideas into bite-sized pieces.
The Founders!
Six Seconds’ founders Anabel Jensen, Karen McCown, Joshua Freedman at our 2013 conference at Harvard.
In her usual style, Anabel “research says” Jensen (our President) was sharing some of the latest research on emotional reactions, and said she’d been looking into how long it takes for someone to recognize the feeling of compassion — and it was around six seconds.
Aha Moment!
We all looked around at each other as if a light went on, and someone said, “that’s it!” As we reflected on this unusual name, we decided it captures some of the science, some of our unique approach, and some of our commitment to using emotional intelligence to spread emotional wisdom.
To learn about the science behind the name, here is an interview with one of our advisory board members, neuroscientist Candace Pert. We also have many articles about the neuroscience of emotion, here’s one about how we become reactive, and how to be less reactive… and, if you don’t have it, be sure to get this beautiful free eBook with neuroscience tidbits and practical tips.
As we like to say…
Six Seconds of Neuroscience
Emotions are neurohormones; chains of amino acids that flow through the brain and body carrying messages. Produced primarily in the hypothalamus, these chemicals affect literally every living cell in our bodies serving as part of our master-regulatory function. Each “burst” of these chemicals, from the time they’re produced, to the time they’re completely broken down and absorbed, last 4-7 seconds. Thus, if we miss the opportunity of those six seconds, we miss the wisdom and energy the feelings offer; also, if we’re feeling something for longer than six seconds, we are – at some level – choosing to recreate and refuel those feelings.
Watch a 2-minute explanation on the neuroscience (to the right). Source: Personal correspondence between Joshua Freedman and Six Seconds’ Advisory Board member Dr. Candace Pert (author of The Molecules of Emotion), 2001
Remember!
Most of all, we want you to know that emotional intelligence is right there inside you — everyone has it, and everyone can learn to use it more effectively. While we deliver powerful in-depth trainings and approaches to EI development, the tools you really need are already inside you — and if you’ll commit just a moment now and then to practice, six seconds at a time, you’ll enhance the quality of your relationships with yourself and others.
Updated by Annie Chu from the original version published 2/5/2004
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Great insights. Thankyou
I am so much interested in the research on the “6 seconds” pause. Could you please give me a hint about where to find it? Thank you so much.
I really love six Second and this methodology.
Very good text material available on website, please let me know how I can proceed for online training course.
Hi Pankaj, Thank you! We have several different ones, all start with this: https://www.6seconds.org/certification/ueq
I am going to ask one of our team members to email you.
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Mr. Frredman,
good morning from Arizona! As a current Ph.D. student studying Organizational leadership and with dissertation subject around EI, job satisfaction and leadership I’m curious as to the best upcoming conferences in 2019, that I could attend and potentially present my research at?
Could you either call me or email some dates, times and requirements for me to present at one of your conferences?
Thank you,
Sean Beyer
520-260-0080
I am keen to take up the certification program. I would like to know the curriculum of the program. Would certification include training in the assessment tools also.
Is it conducted in India or online?
Hi Dr. Kavita – I hope you got all the info you needed on the amazing certification programs we offer… in India and many places around the globe… and online!
Hi.
I am a Psychologist working for a correctional services dept in south Africa. I am currently interested in the role EQ plays in crime prevention and more so in rehabilitation of offenders. Please assist me as to where I should start as I am currently reading a lot on EQ esp on six seconds,but I would like to have the ability to do something constructive. Please help.
So where do I begin, and how can I change a whole primary school of 770 students?
Hi Kim – great! Take a look at http://6seconds.org/education — I suggest you begin by getting a small team together, and getting training. The “EQ Tools for Education” course is a virtual/online training that is an excellent starting place. Or, if budget is constrained, we have some free eLearning on EQ.org — iSEL & inspirED. iSEL has move overview and background on SEL, inspirED is more focused on tools & techniques for teachers. Either, you could use as a curriculum for your faculty, go through on section every few weeks and then discuss in a meeting/workshop, choose a technique to test in the next few weeks, repeat.
hi
i got it 6 seconds corse from Mr. Tuqeer Ahmed
from:pakistan
its a brileiant thyuri…
These six seconds remind me of the advise our elders used to give us – when angry “count numbers up to ten in mind.”. But then I always saw my elders losing their tempers quite often. So that did’t appeal to me very much. But now, may be I will give it a more serious thought. This cycle of emotion, feeling and behavior has one important aspect and that is the negative feedback cycle.Anger or frustration leads to helplessness, causes loss of insight and releases more neuro- hormones to convert emotions into feeling. This cycles piles up loads of feelings that compel us to react in a typical manner that is conditioned behavior.behavior.
It means we have to be on our toes to recognize when we are about to lose our attention towards the situation. The best way is to keep watch on it by writing it down. Its frequency, occurrence, severity and effect. By keeping a record our subconscious mind reminds us regularly. This happens in three steps.
1] We become aware of our impulsive behavior when it is over.and obviously have no control on emotions.
2] We become aware of the emotional impulse in time but are unable to control it.
3] we get aura or pre symptoms that warn us of impending emotional impulse.
still we are unable to control the reaction.
4] Repeated warnings by our subconscious mind start blunting our response to the situation and now we can have control over not our emotions and feelings, but on our behavior.
Practice alone can help us to pass through these stages to break the cycle of negative feedback mechanism and depends upon the individual’s personality, efforts he takes and the effect of his behavior on others that encourages him. I think I am still lingering between the first and the second stage. I need to do a lot more homework.
Thank you all for allowing me to express my thoughts about these six seconds.
Hi Dears,
Thank you for your inspiring work.
I love the speed and simplicity of your tools/approach.
We would like to use your methods for our work with Corporations(for Profit work) and also for our NGO Pragati Foundation(for Non Profit work with Underprivilleged Youth aimed at Sustainable Livelihood Generation and unfolding Peace).
How can we move forward on this?
Warm regards
Apopreciatively
Arun Wakhlu
Executive Chairman
Pragati Leadership & Pragati Foundation
Yes! 6 Seconds tips and technique are very powerful to apply in our life.
Thanks also to EQ Master Trainer that has been share EQ Knowledge for me : Granville D’Souza (Director Six Seconds SEA) and Anthony Dio Martin (Indonesia).
Great, i need to know more about it